You don't have to be a man to dislike the high maintenance woman. I dislike her too. The high maintenance woman expects you to go out of your way to fulfill her needs. She can be retired and you can be running a business and, when you try to make plans with her, she can give you instructions as to what subway line the restaurant should be near. If you're smart, you'll tell her to choose the restaurant. If she can't take the time to take care of her own needs, it's not your job to pick up the slack.You can be a nice person without being a doormat. This very situation happened to me recently. I'm always busy working at something and a woman whom I knew from school days seemed to want to get together with me, however, she expected me to do all the work regarding making plans. She's retired and has much more free time than I. When I made it her responsibility to choose the restaurant, she was offended as she expected me to "share" in the burden of finding a restaurant that was convenient for her. I don't have the time for high maintenance women.
I am one of the most considerate people I know. It's astounding to me how inconsiderate most people are. Think about the people who walk in the streets of Manhattan, for example. I can't tell you how often a stranger in the street has coughed or sneezed right in my face while passing me. But, I digress. I started this discussion regarding the high maintenance woman. Many years ago, I started to become friendly with a woman whom I had known for many years. We were trying to make plans to go to a movie and I chose 5 movies, all different from each other, and asked her to select one of them. She didn't like any of my choices! She also didn't like any of my restaurant choices. This friendship never got off the ground.
The high maintenance woman is, frequently, a lonely woman because most people aren't interested in treating their friends as if their friends are clients. Most people don't enjoy being with women who have a sense of entitlement. These women probably aren't aware of how spoiled they are because most people will disappear from them without explaining why. If you see yourself in the portrait that I painted, here, you might want to change your behavior towards others and try to become less demanding. We all have enough on our plates without having to cater to you as well.